cross-posted at Liberty's Spirit
At least in this case there have been some arrests HERE More HERE
But it still comes down to these fundamental issues: where were the
parents in all of this? Why did they not pay attention to what their
children were doing or monitor their computer use? According to one
report the girls were separated by the school so the bullies' parents had
to know. Why did the bullies’ parents not do something about their daughters' cruel relentless actions?
Here’s a question for the school district: Since the bullying did not
stop, even after the victim was moved to another school, why wasn’t
child services called in if there actually is a law in Florida to
prevent cyberbullying? Why weren’t the parents of the bullies charged
with child endangerment?
Years ago, the local school district near me did just that, called in
the authorities. When a group of girls refused to stop bullying another
student and their parents refused to intervene, the district actually
had them all arrested and made wards of the court.
Are parents today so afraid that their little darlings won’t be
popular that they allow and even encourage evil behavior by their
children? Are parents today so afraid that they will be seen as not
perfect themselves, that they refuse to believe that their children can
be horrible human beings, the “Not my child syndrome”? The answer is yes
Recently the following story from my town was related to me by one of
the participants effected: there was a group of girls who after
accepting an invitation to another’s birthday party, on the day of the
party they all called 15 minutes apart to say they weren’t coming. They
had decided that the birthday girl was not in favor anymore and they
were going to ruin her birthday. When one of the bully-girl’s mothers
was confronted about her daughter’s behavior, her excuse was that she
was not going to get involved in the social life of twelve-year-olds.
Ignoring the fact that parenting of adolescents is a necessary and
overwhelming full-time job, this mother’s way of dealing with reality
was to denigrate those that actually cared to parent their children.
This is what society is up against. Selfish and self-centered parents
who see their children as an extension of themselves to such an extent
that they can never do any wrong. It is not easy to parent in today’s
day and age with computers, phones, emails and social media. But you can
do it effectively.
In fact one of the best ways to do it is to say “NO”
every once in awhile, set boundaries, limits and expectations of
behavior for your children from the day they are born. Make certain that
your child knows what is expected of them and the consequences for
failing to live up to their responsibilities.
Behavior, right and wrong, ethics and morals is something that is NOT
ingrained in our children. It is something that needs to be taught.
Being afraid to hear your child tell you that they hate you is infantile
When CM2 was three years old, he had gotten in trouble in
pre-school and was given a time out.
He promptly fired the teacher.
When I picked him up I was regaled with the event.
I told him to apologize and that since I had hired the teacher he could not fire her.
He then fired me.
I responded that he couldn’t fire me that I am his mother and will be until the day he died.
He then told me that I wasn’t his friend.
I answered that no I was not his friend, I was his parent. That
when he grew up, if he was lucky and I liked him, we would then be
friends. But until that day he was to do as he was told.
He huffed with his arms across his chest.
He never tried to unfriend me or fire me again.
Has he told me he hates me since then. Oh yes he has, more than once.
At the moment it is a daily occurrence. I don’t care. What I care is
that he learn to function in an appropriate manner. Learn what the world
is about. Educate himself, and become self-sufficient.
I did not create my children to be my friends. I gave them life so
they could live life. As a parent it is up to you to make sure that your
children have the necessary tools to be happy and successful. And if
that means clamping down on their actions, behaviors and “social
standing” too bad. Grow the heck up and do your job.
Political Bullying, We Wonder Why Our Kids Are So Mean
This is How a School Should Handle Bullying
On-Line Trolls; IRL Trolls; Cyberbullying and the Ability to Block
Found this article HERE about a bullied special needs teen. Seriously what is wrong with this generation and their parents?
Some more political tolerance HERE.
UPDATE: According to news reports a parent of one of the arrested teens said that his daughter didn't do anything wrong and that she was a very good girl. Now does that mean he doesn't think her actions were inconsistent with kindness, or that bullying is just part of growing up or does he refuse to accept what she did was as heartless as it was? Either way here is a prime example of a parent not doing his job and refusing to acknowledge what a lousy parent he is.
UPDATE: The mother of one of the bullies has been arrested herself on child abuse charges after graphic video of her beating children between the ages of 9-12 went on-line. As the sheriff in the case said, the acorn does not fall far from the tree.