Monday, July 1, 2013

My Four-Year Blogiversary

Missed my blogiversary by a month. I have been blogging since May 2009, Memorial Day 2009 to be exact. You can read my oldest posts up  HERE before I moved over to this address (4/25/10). My original WELCOME post.

Welcome to my blog. Let me tell you something about myself. I am the mother of two children with asperger’s syndrome. The oldest infact was diagnosed with PDD-NOS at the age of five. He just finished his first year of college with 4As and 2 Bs in his second semester. It has been a long road and not so easy all the time. Therapists and friends have told me to write a book about my experiences with this disorder in order to help others, well I can’t do that. I have chosen to do for others what had been done for me. Pay it forward….When my oldest was first diagnosed I called a cousin who had a child on the spectrum and he gave me the best advice I had ever been given about autism.."Never project as to what will be. Take each day, each moment at a time and eventually the child will learn. Then one day in the far future you will look back and realize just how far everyone had come."

I will be writing updates on situations and what and how they had been handled. I may even tell a funny or two. But if you have a question, send me an email. I will respond in due time. If I can’t help you then maybe I can point you in the right direction. I am not a professional. Just a mom, and will be writing just from my heart.

On another note, today is Memorial Day. God Bless those who have given "their full measure of devotion" for "We the People,". and God Bless their families.
(Reads familiar as I incorporated it into my sidebar) 

The question I am asking myself today is what exactly have I learned in the past four years? Well to begin with I can't believe its been four years. So much has happened during these years, both good and bad, that the time seems to gel into one big moment. I know I can look back at individual events and try to figure out what was going on  at the time, but in truth, I think the fact that everything seems simply like one big happening is exactly how it is supposed to be. 

Yes in our family we have had graduations, breakthroughs, meltdowns and personal loss. As a nation we have had economic surprises and we became a nation in despair. Yet on the otherhand some really good things happened in our nation as well (Decide for yourselves what you think they are. This one is personal to the person and no one else's business. I have a long list of my own  HERE).

Nothing lasts forever (good or bad) and part of life is being able to handle the ups and downs, the twists and turns. In reality I think all these moments are simply called life.

So what have I learned in the past four years? Live your life. Simply live it. Enjoy it. Revel in your children's successes. Figure out how to help them through their failures. Support those that you love. Find ways to grab at every minute of everyday. Don't put off the important things. Stand up for what you believe in. Do what is right and honest. Don't be afraid to alienate anyone who isn't a positive influence in your life. Be brave. Have patience, self-respect and above all be kind.