I was going to write something witty and charming for April's Happiness Project. The topic being "money" and this being IRS hell month, I was racking my brain to come up with some soothing, interesting, and life affirming words of wisdom. None came. As parents of autistic children we know our children live and develop because we can find a way to afford the therapies and support that will give them a fighting chance in life. We go into tremendous debt, many of us will face bankruptcy at one time in our lives because of medical necessities and you know what....it is still never enough money. There is always something new to try and some new idea that a specialist somewhere recommends. I have had to come to the conclusion that you can't do everything and that you have to pick and choose what will and won't work.
I suppose that is why I am so thankful for the internet, its information systems, its resources and the constant support given by other parents to one another. We talk, chat and blog about what has worked, not worked and what worked that professionals said never would. We find in each other hope and heart and love that noone who does not walk in our shoes will ever understand. I can honestly say that my on-line circle-of-friends is more real at times than those who walk the streets where I live. To me a friend is someone who is there when you need them. I don't care if they are in cyberspace or "real life," these friendships are worth more than all the money in the world. OK winning the lottery wouldn't hurt either, I do have to admit that. You know the old saying, money can't buy happiness, but hey we can have a great time trying.
Meanwhile, I am thankful for the brilliant entrepreneurs who have devised on-line platforms to help parents who can't afford the $150 -$250 an hour different therapies could cost. I especially like:
Relate to Autism- interactive program that lets you track your child's progress and figure out just what does and does not work.
Rethink Autism-online ABA
Model Me Kids-social skills dvds
Wrightslaw-granddaddy of the legal websites
For some additional websites that can be helpful please look to my sidebar. In the meantime if anyone can recommend other websites or on-line platforms that they truly love and have found helpful please list them in the comment section below. Lets help each other. Let's Pay it Forward especially when the Tax Man Cometh, not exactly Eugene O'Neill but close enough.
Now just for fun....
For more fun watch here if you want to see Meryl Streep do ABBA.
Then there is the classic "Money" from Cabaret with Liza Minnelli and Joel Gray.
Until next time,
Financially poorer after April 15, but by far so much spiritually richer with the help of my friends,