Tuesday, July 21, 2015

Practical Information for Adolescents, Teens and Beyond

The ages for this page are from 11 years to 18 years (and beyond),  or 6th grade/middle school through 12th grade and even post secondary. Of course, much of what is discussed below can apply to younger children as well, simply add some tweaks to accommodate for the age differences; also see the page dedicated to practical information for younger children.  Also don't forget to click on the Tabs in the sidebar for more information on specific topics.

I have been autistic all my life and I turned out just fine....

Essence of Education and the Lack of Magical Realism


Fractal Moles, Unanswered Emails and a Totally Inappropriate Parental Response

Political Correctness, Autism and Bullshit In General

How my aspergean views the world

Autism Used This Time as an excuse for Criminality

Video Game Play as Therapy

Video Games-Purpose and Yes, Importance

It's the Typical Stuff That Finally Gets You

Sibling Relationships and Mindblindness

Entitlement, Privilege and Reaching for the Dream

M is for Motivation by a Mentor (For all posts in this group read Tab AUTISM A to Z)

Of Insomnia and Cortisol

Decision Making Style and Your Child's Future

So Far So good (Hope I Didn't Just Jinx It)

Setting Goals and Expectations (Read PRACTICALITY Tab for more straight forward advice)

Go Big or Go Home: Helping your child have a Big Life

Charlatans, Autism and the Reality of What Helps

Never Give Up Never Give In

Id, Ego and a Sense of Self 

Some Straightforward Parenting Advice 

See the Human Being First and Not the Disability 

Raising a Child in a World without Adult Consequences for bad Actions

To all Those who Think Age and High IQ Means no Para is Necessary

Employment: What is too much support and what is not enough?

Entering the Adult World: Transitioning Out of K-12 

21 is Easier than 10 

PTSD and the Autism-Warrior Parent, Or Life's Lessons Reviewed

Jumping In With Two Feet While Doing a Cannonball

Well It's Done College Applications on the Way


Getting Ready for IEP Season

Back to School: Transition and Perspective

Inside the Special Needs Village  (Read the Tab SPECIAL NEEDS VILLAGE for more information)

Pragmatic Speech, the Autistic mind and Telling Your Professor He is Wrong 

Demystifying Written Language

Review and Reset 

Be Positive 

Should Your Autistic Child Learn a Second Language? 

New School Year, New Ideas for Supports

Next Leg of the Journey (Transition Plans) 

Scheduling/Organization/Executive Functioning

Social Stories


Homework and the Urge to Battle Mutant Zombies (Go to HOMEWORK for more posts with suggestions and help)

Social Stories,  Purpose and Use

Social Stories: Behavior Lessons

Of Triggers, Charts, Scheduling and Perspectives

Generalizing the Specifics 

Transitioning, Practice and Eventually a Smile


On-Line Trolls, IRL Trolls, Cyberbullying and the Ability to Block 

Autism-Meme as Political Insult

Skirting the Feminist Grievance Lexicon, While Thinking About Autism Advocacy

Teaching Your Child to Think for Themselves

Bullying and the IEP

This is How a School Should Handle Bullying

Bullying Update

Adult Twitter Meltdown...Cue Name Calling and Bullying

Kudos for a New Approach to Bullying

Social Relationships/Behavior

This Time It's Your Aspies Fault

Battling That Love-Hate Relationship

Sensory Issues While Growing Up

Self-esteem, It's not a Trophy, Its Reality

On Death and Dying

Sportsmanship and Mindblindness

Mindblindness, Obstinancy 

The Art of Conversation 

Dinner Table Conversation

Appropriateness and the Greater Society

Politics, Hitchcock, and Patience or Raise Your Damn Hand

Manners, Etiquette and Social Convention

When Obnoxiousness Reigns Supreme 

I'm in My Rebellious Stage

Dealing with the Oldest of Hatreds  (Read REJECTING HATRED AND BIGOTRY tab)

Popularity, Girlfriends and Senior Year

Yes Means Yes, and No Means No: How to raise a son in our confusing culture 

The Importance of Role Models

It's Not About Contraception, It's About Self-Respect

Turning Boys Into men: Fighting Society's Emasculation

Simon Cowell, a Culture of Rude, and Your Autistic Child

OCD, Meltdowns and School Behavior 

Remembering to Keep on Top of Social Skills and Behavior

42, the Answer to Life, The Universe and Everything 

Brave New World and Chimps on Campus 

18 Year Old Aspies in the Real World 

Know-It-All is Registered to Vote

Stress Be Not Proud 

Getting Your Aspergean to Invest in their Appearance (Remember to check out the PRACTICALITY Tab)



Monday, July 20, 2015

Practical Information for Pre-K through Elementary School

The ages for this page are from 3 years to 11 years,  or preschool through 6th grade. Of course, much of what is discussed below can apply to older children as well, simply add some tweaks to accommodate for the age differences. (There is another page collating posts for adolescents through high school, and post-secondary.) Also don't forget to click on the Tabs in the sidebar for more information on specific topics.

 The Hero's Journey: Autism and Your Child


So we change our dreams: life with an autistic child

Never Give Up and Never Give In 

When to Tell Your Aspergean They Are Aspies

Inside the Special Needs Village (read the SPECIAL NEEDS VILLAGE tab for articles and links to help organize your child's special needs village)
PTSD and the Autism-Warrior-Parent

Some Straightforward Parenting Advice 

Beware the Oracles of Doom

It's the Typical Stuff that Gets You

Sojourn Through Parental Types

Tell Those who Say Your Child Can't to "Suck It"

The Importance of Role Models

Fighting the Good Fight or Pick Your Battles there May Be Many 

Becoming the Guide in the Land of the Lost-Not What You Think

Don't Call Them Boys with Aspergers, Call Them Boys 

Charlatans, Autism and the Reality of What Helps

Embracing Your Inner Bitch: Dealing with Bullying and IEPs

Advocacy-Your Present Job, Your Child's Future Job

Freedom, Safety and Parental Peace of Mind

Y is for YOU

The Right to Say No

Reminding Yourself about Happiness 

Holidays-Permission Granted Celebrate as You Please

Cry Havoc and Let Slip the Dogs of War


After the DX: Sadness or Terror? I think terror with alot of pissed off thrown in

The Guide to the Perplexed

IEP and Goals
Getting Ready for IEP Season (read more articles at the ADVOCACY tab)

Of Homework, Sociologists and Parenting  (multiple links for additional homework support)

Setting Goals and Expectations

Talking about ESY

Self-Contained to the Future

Working with the School-Really It Can Happen

Watching Over the Teachers

Infantilization and School Supports

When You Want to Throttle the Teacher


Review and Reset 

Standardized Testing: Blessing, Curse, Somewhere Inbetween

Practical Pointers 

Generalizing the Specifics


Sensory Issues While Growing Up

Social Stories, Purpose and Use
Chores and Preparing for the Future

Art of Conversation

Pragmatic Speech

Social Stories

Setting Goals and Expectations
Schedules, Oasis, Rules and Love

Scheduling Those Last Open-Ended Weeks of Summer 
Teaching Your Child to Think for Themselves

Self-esteem: It's not a Trophy, It's Reality 

Teeth Brushing and Face Washing

A is for Accountability (read all posts from the AUTISM A to Z page)

F is for Foreseeable

Entitlement, Self-esteem and Privilege: teaching the differences is called parenting (additional embedded links)

On-line trolls, IRL Trolls, Cyberbullying and the ability to block (bullying program links)

"Science of Autism"-Who Gives a Crap-Practical is What Counts 

Harnessing Those Obsessions


Manners Etiquette and Social Convention

Channeling Robert Deniro and Other Social Issues

OCD Meltdowns and School Behavior

Speech out of sync for many with autism

Sassy Mouth


G is for Gamesmanship

Mindblindness and Obstinacy

Mindblindness and Sportsmanship

The Trick is to not be the Asshole

Flexibility and Reality

Taking a Giant Step Forward and a Baby Step Back: An Autistic's Real Life Game of Mother-May-I

No Retreat and No Surrender; Getting Your Child to Act like Britain Under Churchill

From Few Words, to One Kvetchy Kid

Saturday, July 18, 2015

Yes, People Change and Grow

Below, is a  TED talk, about how people change over decades. Studies show that apparently humans think they don't change, or better yet, can't imagine how they will change in the future, but in reality they do.

So when some pooh-bah "expert" on autism tells you that you have to accept that your child "can't do something" for the rest of their lives, you tell them to go "jump in the lake." (There is actually a Yiddish phrase that this is translated from) Well not literally of course, but in a more adult, respectful manner. In truth, one of the things I have learned over these decades is that you can no more predict who our children will be in ten years, then you can predict life's outcomes for neurotypical children. The point is to never give up dreaming for your child. Never let anyone tell you your child can't.

The trick is to find the way to get it done. There is always a way.

Why you should listen

Dan Gilbert believes that, in our ardent, lifelong pursuit of happiness, most of us have the wrong map. In the same way that optical illusions fool our eyes -- and fool everyone's eyes in the same way -- Gilbert argues that our brains systematically misjudge what will make us happy. And these quirks in our cognition make humans very poor predictors of our own bliss.

The premise of his current research -- that our assumptions about what will make us happy are often wrong -- is supported with clinical research drawn from psychology and neuroscience. But his delivery is what sets him apart. His engaging -- and often hilarious -- style pokes fun at typical human behavior and invokes pop-culture references everyone can relate to. This winning style translates also to Gilbert's writing, which is lucid, approachable and laugh-out-loud funny. The immensely readable Stumbling on Happiness, published in 2006, became a New York Times bestseller and has been translated into 20 languages.

In fact, the title of his book could be drawn from his own life. At 19, he was a high school dropout with dreams of writing science fiction. When a creative writing class at his community college was full, he enrolled in the only available course: psychology. He found his passion there, earned a doctorate in social psychology in 1985 at Princeton, and has since won a Guggenheim Fellowship and the Phi Beta Kappa teaching prize for his work at Harvard. He has written essays and articles for The New York Times, Time and even Starbucks, while continuing his research into happiness at his Hedonic Psychology Laboratory.

Thursday, July 16, 2015

Advocacy Thought for the Day

When supporting your child the way they need, those who attack you (especially anonymous online trolls) do not deserve a respectful response. You are NOT the jackass whisperer.